Category: observing the culture

  • as slow as Christmas…but, it is not slow anymore.

    as slow as Christmas…but, it is not slow anymore.

    DCF 1.0

    Astoundingly fast the time goes these days.  When we were kids, we used to say “as slow as Christmas” when we thought that something was taking a long time.  We were always waiting for Christmas to come around again.  The dramatic lead up to the climax of the eve before the big day.  Loved “The Christmas Story” movie about the kid and the bee-bee gun – absolutely one of the best Christmas movies out there…  Likely, the kid thought that things were indeed moving slowly as he wished and hoped that Santa would deliver his dream!

    I was running the other day and had these thoughts, as I do, about this phenomenon of time moving faster as you get older.  Well, unfortunately, I forgot it (mostly), as you do, when your endorphins go back down to normal levels after the run.  Shit.  I hate it when that happens.  I lose some of my best insights that way.  Sometimes I record these, but then I get nervous and feel like I am on radio.  It completely upchucks the thoughts and garbles the original flow.  I wish I could invent something that could record these important insights in my brain and not look like really screwed up garbage.

    I don’t have the comic strip anymore, but years ago, Dagwood Bumstead (of the comic strip Blondie) awakened and opened up a notepad on his bed stand after having a brilliant flash of insight when he was dreaming – and what he found the next day was a bunch of nonsensical words written down, much to his chagrin.  That would be me!

    I get a little depressed that my time on earth is now within that realm of “realizable”, as it now has the potential to be no longer than my longest marriage relationship, statistically speaking.  In addition to this, we all, as we age, begin to see each year more people taking off due to unexpected circumstances and early-onset illnesses.  Big fat finger in your face, reminding you that you are not in control here.

    My neighbor told me the story of asking her dad on his 70th birthday, “Dad, how does it feel to be 70?”  She said he was not happy being asked that question.  He told her to consider how she would feel if she knew that she had more years behind her than the number ahead.  I had a similar experience with my Dad when he was in his sixties.  He got really grumpy when I made a bad attempt to be humorous about his age.  My bad judgment and lack of understanding got me into some deep doo-doo on that one…

    Yep, it’s a fact.  No matter which flavor of religious affiliation you are, generally speaking, you are mainly being prepared for leaving the planet as you listen to sermons and read about what prophets say.  This time of year, the joyousness of the season is infectious and people of various faiths do celebrate The Holidays together as much as they can because it is positive and cheery – everyone feels good, mostly, when they get out and party in a positive way with people.

    As an analyst, looking at religions across the spectrum, the preparation for “what’s next” in the human experience and birth-life-death-re-birth (or not) is the one common denominator.  We see that some religions more focus on the here and now, and some focus on the within more than the without, and some focus on the after, more than the now, but the departure in all its forms, of leaving the body in which we are living presents a major event horizon that triggers something else in the belief systems of major and minor religious philosophies.  Besides Death, Birth is that other one single event that is viewed as important, as it begins a cycle of life on the planet.  It is all wondrous and never solved definitively, likely by design by someone or some thing.

    People dedicate their entire lives to the solution.  They go into the forest by certain trees and sometimes get so far in that they lose sight of the original point that they are trying to solve – or rather the mystery – maybe it is not a problem, just a condition, or a situation.  Whatever.

    IMG_4601The trees still have green leaves on them where I live.  Some of these are supposed to have fallen off, or at least be brown or some other color besides green.  We have constant change in our environment that poses big world problems or problems of the planet.  We watched the movie, “Interstellar”, the other night.  It was one of the physics and math will solve this if someone smart enough can do this in time types of movies with the added aspect of the explorers going outside to look for a new planet, just in case, even though most people will be dead back home because of the time warps and distance issues.

    You know – it’s enough to entertain you, and make you a little anxious.  Half-facts, with the seasonings and flavorings borrowed from Contact, Mad Max, and other such movies.  We didn’t see aliens – they were missing.  But then ahead of this, there was the boring war movie that had the alien spaceship and when I am falling asleep watching movies, they tend to merge into one plot.  Or I get distracted and the movie isn’t that meaningful, so I go surf the net, or go on Facebook.  I mean, how many ways can you slice and dice the plot lines?  It’s all about the same thing.

    Redux.  Is there anything new under the sun?  No, not really.  It is, as I said in one of my other posts, all matter just recomposed and reconfigured.  Stuff just isn’t produced – it is reconstituted.  Think about it.  How would anything really leave and how would anything else come in?  Hmmmm.  Think of the options.  According to some folks who are “in the know” – it hasn’t happened that anyone can prove…  At least not yet, right Agent Scully?

    So, what was I saying?  Slower than Christmas?  Whoever thought that up was just trying to be clever.  I am with you.

    splashWhat I do know is that Humor IS required!  Without it, you are sunk.  “Bottom of the ocean…”

    And before we know it, it will be Christmas Day.  We should celebrate something – any aspect of our lives that has reflected positively and gives us hope – definitely, it is a time to reflect on new beginnings and try to not think about the anxieties of the world.

    What do I want for Christmas?  Twenty-four hours of no television, of good conversation that is not negative, with reflections of good times and gratefulness – peace for a day.  Longer if possible.  That is what I would like for Christmas this year.  Oh, and good health.  Yeah, that would be good – for the entire family.

    We will save prosperity wishes for New Years!

    Happy Holidays from the family!

    SonnyAndBabyWill
    December 1979.
  • something to look forward to doing, no matter what. seek happy.

    something to look forward to doing, no matter what. seek happy.

    don’t you feel better when you have something that you can look forward to doing?  not dread.  but something that is cheery and fun?  there is a lot of discussion around, about happiness.  is happiness some state that once you’re there, you’re there?  is it episodic and fleeting?  is it a feeling or a state?

    it is my belief that happiness is not a state, but is a feeling and is a very complex one, at that.  if you focus on the positive and decline the negative (as much as possible) – you may likely have more “happiness” than others who do not use this technique.  this is my belief.

    this can be a challenge if the stress-monsters are active, or you are surrounded by negativity or people who might constantly chatter about some event or other – bitching, moaning, wailing, sniveling… ahhh – there it goes so easily it can happen!

    i recently went through a “dodged a bullet” or “cheated death, once again!” situations.  when the surgeon gave me the report, i squealed and did a “high five” with her – as it had been weeks of uncertainty and anxiety that began with a routine doctor’s visit, then tests, then a referral to another doctor (this one), and surgery, and more tests, and finally the report.  my mind went through so many gyrations that i know others go through – in fact, i said to one of my doctors, after she concluded a test to send off to the lab, “now we enter the “anxiety phase” of the process”.  she laughed.

    more data needed to make a decision was the line of reasoning.  but this does not prevent those conversations with God and the dredging up of thoughts of all types that take you in places you should likely not go.  right.  but you do.  “get your hands off that keyboard!”  “do NOT search the internet!!”  “bad!  bad!”

    it takes working with yourself to not slip into negativity with the constant battering of media that pumps it out to make us a more anxious society – in fact, a more anxious civilization…

    but being anxious makes you unhappy.  it makes everyone unhappy around you.  remember that movie,  Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind?  well, that didn’t work, now, did it?  what’s the answer?  hide.   yes, that’s right.  shut off all input from negative sources!  don’t read newspapers.  turn off the television!  listen to calm music.  it makes sense.  you can tell them NO by doing this!  try it for twenty-four hours – i  guarantee you will be a calmer person!

    in the meantime, feel free to gaze upon these images – to help yourself calm down.  imagine yourself there… now… enjoy!

    surf_n_turf

    DCF 1.0

    DCF 1.0

  • waiting for the second that something will change or maybe not.

    waiting for the second that something will change or maybe not.

    Blade Runner.  Great movie.  Classic.  We saw it again recently.  A reminder of the perceptions of life that we hold onto as we cruise through it.  Maybe not in a futuristic vehicle, but maybe it is – if you time slice automobiles from the time you were born, to now – hey, by the time you are my age, they do look futuristic.  They still don’t fly through the air, except in bad circumstances

    That’s another story. Chaotic.  Strange.  Wake me up when this movie is over

    But sometimes things happen and you can’t wake up from it, and you can’t get away from it.  It just is how it is.  I have experienced that.  More than once.  Yeah, life sucks sometimes.

    Disease, divorce, death – the three “D’s” that you get told by counselors that say these are major deals in your life.  Of course your own death isn’t likely to affect you in a big way, just other people who are left behind.  And that is yet another story.  Been there, done that.  No amount of experience prepares you.

    Things get put on your radar that weren’t there just a minute or two before.  Stuff like that.  That is when we don’t want change to happen.  It is a “please, just let me BE” kind of appeal.  I’m not ready for the great up yonder yet.  We don’t get to decide that, Silly.  Haven’t you figured that out yet?  So, nobody wants to face that, but yet we face it every day.  We just send it under the gray matter.  Fear of “it” in any representation.

    the clown

    Clowns.  Monsters.  Deep space.  Any abyss – beings and places you cannot know simply because you cannot see or touch what is within.  Let’s take clowns.  Underneath all of that make up, wigs, baggy clothes, big shoes and those big red noses is something you cannot understand.  Oh, and yeah.  There’s the teeth part.  Big teeth.  “The clowns are waiting, I cannot sleep.”

    Thanks Stephen King.  Master of bringing you your worst nightmares in print.  You are compelled to NOT put the book down until you get through to the end.

    I think that if a dark future is defined for you, and you are told this, it makes you realize that you are not in control here.  You are definitely NOT in control.  Sometimes you go down the river in Egypt – de Nile.  Or your mind chops it up into itty-bitty pieces.  At some point, the removal of the perceived control makes you angry.  It makes you lose it.  Yeah.  Lose control.  Oh yeah… never actually had it, did you?  So, get pissed off, get over it and call me in the morning.

    Living in the past lately, for some strange reason I call it studying the past.  Suddenly, the 1960’s are fascinating.  Maybe clinging is a better word.  Maybe not.

    Photo - 010Day to day, for comfort, we delude ourselves into thinking that everything is fine.  It’s a self-protection, this calm of the moment.  A womb.  We sit in it and watch the world go by.  Then the tap on the shoulder. 

    Imagine riding along on I-10 one minute, and crunched between vehicles the next.  Split second.  Bastante.

    Don’t forget.  Joy happens, too.  Learning that you will be a parent, then waiting the appointed time before that actually happens. 

    The split second you see the new little person, made of 50% you, emerging into the world – now that’s joy!  Let’s not think of other possibilities.  Be in the moment.  It’s important.  Let’s just think that things will be fine and the miracle of life will be right in front of our very eyes. 

    Experience teaches us lessons of dubiousness and as we have more of those experiences, we get more dubious.  It’s as simple as that.

    Photo - 007I have been accused of being “negative”.  Maybe when I am speaking with people who are close to me, it is the fact that I feel that I can speak freely.  Well, maybe I can’t as much as I thought.  Live and learn.  There was innocence before the fall.

    My life experience unfolds every day.   Everyone on this planet experiences this as long as they are still breathing. 

    Revisiting what I did once, thinking back about it, I felt like I was wandering in the forest, to be honest.  I look at these old photos and wonder what happened to these girls who were friends back in 7th grade.

    Mostly, I was afraid of my mother.  I was always trying to escape her grip of control.  She didn’t want me to wear shoes with no socks.  She did not want me to wear make-up.  She did not want me to shave my legs or arm pits.  For God’s sake, I was looking like a baby gorilla!  What a dork – wearing socks and clunky shoes (oh  yeah, she didn’t want me to wear cool shoes – only those that were “supportive”).  No make up, no eye liner, no lipstick – Frosted Malt or Sugar and Ice – the two popular ones at the time so you could look like “Twiggy”.  Right.  See me in that dress.  I absolutely did NOT look like Twiggy.  I had curly hair, when styles were straight.  My mom kept cutting my hair, when I wanted it long.  What did we agree on?  Not much.

    We finally had it out when I was in seventh grade.  Yeah.  She took a slap at me and I caught her hand in mid-air.  I said, “Don’t do that to me ever again.”  Line in the sand.  That was the day she realized that I was bigger and stronger than she was.  And she didn’t physically do that again.  She used her mind instead… oh yeah, and her voice.  Boy could she scream and yell.

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    She was kind of a “Dr. Jekyl – Mrs. Hyde”.  But eventually, we knew the relationship boundaries and we got as okay as we could — and she did rise to help and support at grim times, when she was most needed.  She could behave like a normal human being if she put her mind to it.  A real normal one.  That was what perplexed everyone about her.  But underneath, she was a normal person, trying to stay that way.  It was probably clowns that drove her into her spells.

    So I digress.

    Childhood.  Adolescence.  Adulthood.  I guess all I wanted was some credibility.  Well, here I am. 

    I’ve been so trying not to repeat history, that it hurts.  Maybe I have gone a bit too far, but then, you are never sure.

    We have those moments in our lives that we will look back on, embarrassed, but knowing that it was the best that we could do at the time with what capabilities we had and being what people we were, we can take comfort.  We were children.   It’s okay.   Photo - 004We can’t go back and change this.  Only in the movies, but then it gets complicated when this happens, as we have seen.

    But we had fun and we did crazy stuff.  We snuck out and rode around, and met boys at the movies, and made out in the dark.  We probably did a lot of things that millions of other kids did around the world.  That’s why I love that movie, “The Boat that Rocked”  AKA “Pirate Radio”.   It captured how we were – on the brink of something revolutionary.  It was great!  The British Rock invasion… The Soul Train… Girl groups – yeah, Lezley Gore – It’s My Party and I will Cry if I Want!  Love it!

    One thing, though – we can’t go back.  Would we want to go back?  No, not really.  Some of those days weren’t so much fun.  But what I think is that we should appreciate every day.  I know it’s hard for people facing tough times.

    We can’t magic away the tough times.  But if you are just needing to change your attitude, then you really should think about it.

    I am.  Every day.  Every day.